June Blog 2022 -
There is Always a Point of Connection

By Jill Lawrence

June Blog

The things that divide us from one another seem so trivial when you consider the things that unite us as human beings. Why so much anger, so much despair, so much violence? Here is the answer from poet Robinson Jeffers –

“Then what is the answer?

Not to be deluded by dreams.
To know that great civilizations have broken down into violence,
and their tyrants come, many times before.
When open violence appears, to avoid it with honor or choose
the least ugly faction; these evils are essential.
To keep one’s own integrity, be merciful and uncorrupted
and not wish for evil; and not be duped
By dreams of universal justice or happiness. These dreams will
not be fulfilled.
To know this and know that however ugly the parts appear
the whole remains beautiful.”

I think this is a hard pill to swallow and is not the answer. I always want to believe Martin Luther King’s dream. I want to believe that although the arc towards justice may be slow, it bends toward justice. I cannot accept this dream will not be fulfilled. I have been thinking a lot about connection. What is it that connects all of us? Humanity is the obvious answer.

Humanity – noun –

1. the human race; human beings collectively

2. humaneness; benevolence

We are sorely lacking humaneness, benevolence, toward those we name as “other”. Those that look, sound, appear, and think different from us. I wonder what Jeffers means in saying “these evils are essential”. I disagree with “however ugly the parts appear the whole remains beautiful”. I think we are in a slow arc of destroying and killing and hating each other. It is ugly. It is a blight overall. A blight on the whole of us – humanity.

So, I ask again, – what is it that connects us? I believe that if we all seek points of connection, our humaneness, our benevolence toward the “other” grows.

I’m thinking this morning of Sting’s song “Russians” the 2022 version https://sting.Inkto/Russians

This is our point of connection, love.  Recognizing and building upon the hope that “Russians love their children too”. That all politicians love their children too. That all the NRA members love their children too.

May we all not be weary in seeking points of connection, resisting wrong, calling out evil power when we see it, calling out lies, telling truth, and choosing to love others different than ourselves. May we find and work on our points of connection. May we listen to others, be slow in rebuttal, fast in understanding differing points of view. May we value life above evil and war and killing. Despite the turmoil and division, I must believe – There is always a point of connection.

May we never give up dreaming of universal justice, universal happiness. But may we not delude ourselves into thinking that dreaming, just like thoughts and prayers, does not need to be put into action. May we dream big and act even bigger!